Friday Five: Groups
Last night was the second meeting of the Night Owls, a new women’s circle at the church I serve. It’s a nice group–we’re getting to know one another and figuring out the format and flow of the evenings.
Night Owls … my kind of group, maybe I’ll start one at my church.
And speaking of groups…
1. Tell us about any group(s) you currently belong to. (e.g. book club, knitting circle, walking buddies, etc.) Groups to which I belong: small clergy group, Ministerial Association, Jr High Band Boosters, Soccer mom, Emmaus, PTA (at 2 schools), do small group projects for PhD classes count?, online Fantasy Football
2. Do you feel energized or drained by being in a group situation? If the answer is “it depends,” on what does it depend? I love groups. I love people. Energized big time. I’m the one that wants to go out to eat after the planned group thing is over ’cause I still have energy and, truth be told, I’m not done being with people yet.
3. Is there a role you naturally find yourself playing in group situations? That is, do you naturally fall into the leader role, or the one who always makes sure the new person feels welcome, or the quiet one who sits back and lets others shine, or the host? I very often end up in a leader role. I also am pretty good at including new folks in the flow of the oldtimers conversatons. On rare occassions, like Halley’s commet rare, I’m quiet. But even though I’m not often quiet, I am great at making sure other’s shine. For host type activities, I recruit the women of the church ’cause I’m really bad at all that host stuff — too froo, froo for me.
4. Handshakes vs. hugs: discuss. This is my “it depends” answer. I prefers hugs most of the time but there are a few folks who make me uncomfortable. I try to be sensitive to the preferences of others. And I know that some folks who live alone only get hugged at church. The other thing related to “it depends” is: with Rheumatoid Arthritis, sometimes handshakes hurt my hands terribly.
5. Ice breakers: a playful way to build community in a lighthearted manner, or a complete and utter hell of forced fun and awkwardness? I love ice breakers! I know that is it pure unadulterated hell for some folks but it gives me an excuse to meet them.
Bonus: If you answered “playful and lighthearted,” share your favorite ice breaker. My favorite is People Bingo. 24 squares of opportunity for sharing personal trivia and meeting people!